TIPS AND THOUGHTS Del 6
Stutter neatly If for any reason you feel that it is comfortable with a faltering voice, the piece of advice is to stammer "neatly.” The issue is perhaps new. Are there really people who cannot cope with my stuttering? I'm inclined to answer yes to this. I think that we as stutterers perceive ourselves as weak and non-stuttering as strong. We take it for granted that they must be able to listen to our speech stammering as long as we think we need for implementation. For some reason they cannot. Good eye contact is a must. You see him and he sees you. You observe him, but how does he react? Is it positive or negative? Learn from what you see. Our basic needs Security is necessary Social and economic security is concepts that are more understandable and concrete. Internal security is probably what I think of first. What is it? We who never have experienced it do not know what it is. I myself experienced it for the first time in Mallorca in the 60s. Suddenly I spoke freely with an unknown girl. When I think of that incident, I curse all work units. The work has no boundaries and the stress that in my case triggers stuttering can be really unpleasant. Job security is a rare luxury. Having the "back free" is difficult. Torment and stress may each one handle after his or her ability. Stress management can help some. To my knowledge it is a subject that people do not talk about at work. When it comes to stuttering therapy, two maybe three conditions are valid. One thing is to leave the security and try new fields the second one is to have the support that may be needed and, finally, an aid to lick your wounds and to get new forces. What I mean when I talk about security is the security that some children in their youth receive from their parents. If you don´t have it as an adult it is difficult to usurp it. But one can always have it as a goal. If you do not know very much about the subject you should have guidance from someone knowledgeable in the field. Security is not something that just comes. Expect to fight to get it. In addition, you must be purposeful.
Get To Know Yourself Once you have decided to find out who you are, you will find shortcomings. But you should know that you will do as you are with all your faults and shortcomings. Furthermore, you can always work on your shortcomings at appropriate times. At first glance it may be difficult to see what the real assets are. Take out a pen and paper and list what you are good at. You will discover that you are good and capable of more things than you could imagine. Take yourself seriously One should avoid being a slave to one´s emotions. Nothing could be further from the truth. If you have however gained a good life and have trust in your feelings, it is a great asset. Control your emotions to do what you really want to do. Concentration can never be wrong. When you take yourself seriously in the situation above, you can, over time, avoid the internal tug of war. Take yourself seriously is to respect yourself. Who owns the problem? Now we have come to the conclusion that what has not happened has become a problem, at least for those who "happened" to stutter. Has the other person had the right idea about me, does he think the right things about me, is grinding in the head? What is happening now is that the stuttering person takes on the responsibility over what the other person will think. This was just one example, but there are certainly a number of them. The inner dialogue may be wise to consider whether there really is my problem. To be generous and share the problem is not a good solution because then both persons have problems. The moral is: Do not wear problems that are not yours.
Are you looking for knowledge you will find it It's also very much about the fact that everything you need to know is recorded in different contexts. It´s "only" to take in adequately. Speech therapists can help you in different contexts. Scientists are good for the riddle's solution, and more research is requested than they do today. A person who truly embraced what speech therapists told him I met in a therapy group at “The South Hospital” in Stockholm - he had realized that the way he lived his life, it was not surprising that he stammered. I mean that there is a lot of knowledge on the subject. The problem is to assimilate it, take it seriously even though there may be diffuse. What if it would be so bad that the "riddle´s solution are countless factors that can each be of great importance. Maybe there's something for you to consider in this book in your search for understanding, help or relief. Do not be a victim or a scapegoat It is complicated to live and it's easy to fall outside the usual norms. In the end it's always the group you are in or want to enter that is the norm. Rules always exist some of them are invisible, and this can go wrong properly. When it's something that goes bad there will always be a good reason and it may be at first, but is the solution over time there is a vacuum. The most experienced know that the situation is dangerous and ultimately unsustainable. No shadow must fall over me so what´s best is to ignore the problem. You don´t want to be concerned with it and refer to others. It's not long before there is a scapegoat who is not just anyone. Usually it is a person who for some reason finds it difficult to defend himself or it is a strong character person who wants to be firm as a God. Once the boss, in its way, endorsed him as "bully victim" he becomes everyone's game. The scapegoat unfortunately serves a useful purpose in mankind. Much misery is channeled through him. To Establish Your Borders Ability to put an end to things is the key to a sense of dignity and self-esteem. You are somebody, you have identity but also integrity. Live your life like everyone else. Go to work and home to the family. If your life looks in a different way it isn´t wrong either. How strange it maybe sound it is up to you to decide over your life, what you do and what you plan to do. In order to feel as good as possible, the starting point is that you know how you should manage your life. Make sure the distance to the person you are talking to is convenient when you speak to him. Look at his face, his eyes, what do they say? If you don´t dare, you can watch his mouth, but it is not as good. Consider what is important to you when you set limits in your speech. What do you need to feel good. You grow when you dare to be clear. Setting limits and saying no is to create space for what you want and need. The responsibility to set boundaries is yours - it is about learning the surroundings so that they treat you well. If you're respected you feel calm and secure.
STIG`S TOOLBOX: - I take myself seriously - My value remains even when I say NO. - Stig Lindh's silver bullet "Respect yourself" - is recommended in difficult situations. - If it is too difficult just accept the situation - Who owns the problem? DO NOT BE MAD at everyone and everything, because if you do not become angry, you need not process the anger. "WHEN YOU ARE ALONE behave as if you have honored guests, like when you have honored guests behave as if you are alone.” - A clear identity is very useful. I don´t like taking advantage of stuttering to get time to think. It is a time that the normal speakers do not have. Then the stutterer has got an advantage that is questionable. Uninvited socializing on the phone
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The film "Is Stuttering Something to Get Hung Up On?" The title is taken from my award-winning film from 1989. The film is based on my innermost circle, my mom, dad and brother. All are unfortunately deceased why the film has greater significance for me than what you believe. When my family and partner had said what they thought was worth saying I widened my network with the doctor who said we were more alike than different, my dentist that I still go to, my workmates at the Swedish Construction Firm. The most sensational meeting was with the playmate that I had as a child and that I had contact with after 35 years who told me why I started to stutter. The movie ends abruptly by the sudden uncontrolled accumulated stutter. My creative movie title has for some time been used by the Swedish Associations Organization´s home page. Everything in moderation The title could be the book's title but was eventually rejected by me. But I really think it has much to do with trying to be a little bit right. The word moderation is very Swedish and it is only we in the world who knows what the word actually means. In stutter context it could be to not stutter too much, not to falter in ugly, have your own tolerance, not demand too much of yourself, do not require too much of others who, in turn, can backfire on yourself. Important is not to be too extreme, equally important is not to be too pale in your image. Presumably, a lot of insight is required to live as "Mr Moderation" and the honour you have to get yourself. I have actually encountered people who show too much anger. What the reason is for their anger I can only speculative in , it can be inherited but also socially conditioned - to them, I would like to give the this piece of advice: Do not get angry at everything and everyone! The advantage is that anger not awoken never needs to be processed. Everything is not just black or white, there is actually a grey area. When you are there you need not be or feel badly - it works all right
METHODS OF SPEECH PRACTICES
Stutter therapies, courses and methods of speech practices Intensive stutter therapy The working form is the personal conversations with your speech therapist, smaller and larger group conversations. By exercises of drama, oral presentation, interviews, video, elocution and role-playing you try to change your stutter. The goal is to make it smoother and easier. This is stutter therapy at a high level. Speech therapists are working in teams. The technology NNT can be used for personal preferences. Time for treatment can be reserved in their "Technology Laboratory.” The staff group as such consists of people with advanced training and often with experience in individual therapy or earlier Intensive stutter therapy. You need a letter of referral from a doctor which makes it difficult of access. After three times therapy the course in the group is closed. “Evaluation of intensive stutter therapy I have learned to accept my stutter, to dare to defy it. “What do I care if someone remarks that I stutter" says one voice. The project has been able to establish that the treatment method has had positive significance for the participants.” / / Working for Intensive stutter therapy.
The Academy of Stutter Free Speech The Academy of Speech is a non-profit organization that offers 3-4-day courses at cost a few weekends a year. The course is located to places with access to buildings with large rooms and possibility to stay overnight. The downside of their success is that they have brought back classic flotation therapy. The therapies which were the original reason for the first stuttering association were to see the light of day. The three foundation stones The Academy of Speech´s ten points: THREE ASPECTS OF THE VOICE: Voice Quality, Voice Mode and Voice Strength. THREE ASPECTS OF THE SPEECH: Pronunciation, Tempo and Rhythm. For some, these ten points seem to be a collection of words that do not go together - just too much - but over time exercise provides both knowledge and skills. One of the survey questions was about to describe to someone what The Academy of Speech is about. “What would you say?” One person replied: "To learn how to speak.” Another said: “I meet stutterers from the whole of Sweden. We live in nice places. The social relations are good. Nice drills and leaders. Relaxed. Positive is also that the cost for the participants is reasonable.” A woman says she learned belly breathing - basically - pause often, have eye contact, get the listener to understand that I am not ready, there will be more. Voice technology is used and "rest breathing rythm,” then you feel calm and decide to speak in two words phrases, three words phrases etc. We are working in pairs. These repetition exercises we say in rest breathing rhythm. The partner controls the other by the hand to take it up and down - normal to below normal tempo pace. We know that we have control of our speeches. If recurrence occur workout at home is recommended. The course covers Speaking circles, where participants form a group of 5-6 persons and they are working 10-12 passports a day. We talk for two minutes and then we get applauses. It is only positive feedback. The Academy of Speech is a welcome but limited therapy in the course form "in the moral management,” which means that the stutterer without consultation and in a relatively easy way can participate when it is offered.
McGuire program Another cornerstone is not to avoid anything. The method is tough. The stutterer who stutters on a word will be prompted to write it up and then use that word in all the contacts until it feels safe. Anyone who goes to bed without having worked with his problems can easily get into a downward spiral. Mikael has suffered from his stutter since he learned to speak. Before he joined the McGuire-program the problem of speech affected all his life. Now he has got self-confidence back, but healed, he is not. Kenneth says that he is working at a major company as project manager, which means that he must talk a lot. Last year he stopped to stutter after a McGuire course. He starts the day with 10-15 minutes of breathing exercises. At the slightest tendency to stutter, he stops and tries again. "Sometimes I have to raise the comfort zone,” he says. The previous experiences of stutter therapies extend to the "3-4 therapists" where one is a female therapist. Here's how it works: The method exists in Norway and Ireland, but other users are also in Sweden. The Stockholm Association has members who diligently practice the technology.
McGuire method judged by the M-L Lundgren: She says that it is an important addition to the usual stutter therapy and recommends it for the people who are dissatisfied with their fluency of speech and has a stutter problem, but a strong will to get rid of it, taking full-time responsibility and be prepared for change and a lot of hard work after the course and regularly participating in the "Refresher" courses. My positive judgements might appear provocative. What happens for example with people who do not succeed? - Do not know! Long-term effects? - The program has been going on for about 5 years, evaluations are in progress. The academy of speech and McGuire "After the three days´ course I was almost free of stuttering," says Akbar. "The difference was significant, moreover, I had a better voice. It was tough because I was only 17 years old. Then I practiced every day but quickly fell back. It was like something was missing. TV4 showed a program about McGuire that I was interested in so I put myself into it. After I had passed the McGuire course, I made a speech in my class. "But with hindsight he says that the McGuire method was too hard for him - a disaster." I and some other young people have stopped using the method. We were probably too young - this he says after five years.
Star Fish Project Organizers are Anne and David Blight and voluntary "refreshers" - technology trainers. All courses are taken place in England for three days. Operations are conducted non-profit taking a one-time cost for all time of £ 250 not including food and accommodation. Anne pays attention to the participants that there is no real cure to stutter so that the stuttering does not disappear completely, but by using breathing techniques, you get a better control of your stutter. Parents also learn the technology. Once back at home the idea is that they become the child's most important aid. Intensive non-avoidance The technique is simple and the contents consist of: Most people who have undergone the course have made progress and don´t want back their former stutter. Do you want to know more or watch a film about the project, visit www.starfishprojekt.co.uk The DAF-system and T Wolf (Delayed Auditory Feedback) Do not think of words or sentences in advance. Speech is here and now with rest breathing. Do I want to work with the problem to get rid of my stutter? DAF - I teach myself with delayed tempo of speech. You have to say no in order to gain time. The device helps me to keep a low tempo of speech. You are practicing one hour per day. This device helps you to receive the tempo of speech. I want to be a person who will be able to speak without stutter.
Dr. Fluency project The idea is to strengthen your control over the speech and the situation of speech by a number of fundamental technologies: the extension of syllables, breathing rhythms, practicing soft approaches, reduced air pressure, soft transitions between syllables and words and repeating the word instead of fighting through a blocking. During the treatment the speech tempo will gradually be increased again when the new technology is learned. The computer training and training of speech is taking place in a group. Stromsta’s technique Prepare the other sound Courtney Stromsta believes that the stutter mostly consists of repetitions and that the stutterer is not prepared for the other sound. It means that he can not do the transition from the first sound to the second one. The normal speaker is preparing for the second sound automatically. Also stutterers do but not all the time. As you know most stutterers usually have more fluent speech than stuttering. Is the ambition to speak fluently, he must also learn to always prepare for the second sound. According to Courtney Stromsta extensions, blockings and all the other symptoms of stutter are reactions to the basic stuttering.
He wants the client to acquire a lighter form of stutter. In doing so the following elements are observed: Lift the pressure of time by adding optional breaks, reduce the tensions in connection with the stutter, do not require fluent speech but have some margin of safety, go on and say the word you are afraid of instead of stuttering, adapt to the more fluent speech. After Courtney Stromsta´s visit to Sweden Stockholm Stutter Association practiced the "Stromsta therapy" in the form of a circle activity for two years. The technology is popular because it is relatively user-friendly. Anyone who wants to work with the technology must go to the United States of America.
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